Membership pricing

Every account starts with a profile. When you are ready to message without limits and see every search result, choose the membership length that suits how you date.

What each membership includes

VIP

VIP is the core paid membership. It unlocks the tools most people need to move from browsing to real conversations:

• Unlimited messaging with other members
• Full search and browse access, including every filter
• A complete, visible profile with your photos and introduction

VIP Plus

VIP Plus includes everything in VIP and adds visibility:

• Priority placement in search results, so your profile appears earlier
• A highlighted profile that stands out as people browse

VIP Plus suits people who live outside the larger cities, couples who want their shared profile noticed by the right person, and anyone who would rather spend less time waiting for replies.

Prices in US dollars

Each figure is the total charged for the full length shown.

Prices in other currencies

Checkout shows the currency that matches your location. These are the totals for each plan.

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Further currencies, including South African rand, Indian rupees and several Latin American currencies, appear automatically at checkout when they match your location.

Choosing a length

Polyamorous dating rarely follows a neat timetable. Schedules are shared with partners, metamours have plans of their own, and a promising conversation can take weeks to turn into a coffee date. That makes the right membership length a personal call.

One week works if you want to test the site properly, send a handful of messages and see whether the people near you match your structure. It is also handy around a trip, when you would like to meet people in another city.

One month gives enough room for several conversations to develop at the speed polyamorous people usually prefer, with time to check in with existing partners before arranging a date.

Three or six months suit people who know they are looking for a lasting connection, and couples who want to take their time finding someone who fits both of them. Longer plans also mean fewer decisions about renewing while you are in the middle of getting to know someone.

Twelve months is for people who see the site as part of their life for the year ahead, perhaps because they enjoy meeting new people in their community or because they travel often.

What changes once you upgrade

The first difference you notice is conversation. With VIP you can reply to everyone who writes, start as many threads as you like and keep talking without counting messages. For polyamorous dating that matters, because good conversations often run long before anyone suggests meeting. You might be checking how a new person feels about your nesting partner, comparing calendars or simply getting to know each other over several days, and none of that should stop halfway.

Full search changes how you find people. Instead of scrolling a general list, you can filter by distance, age and the profile details relevant to your own setup, then read profiles properly before deciding whom to contact. Many people find they send fewer, better messages once they can search this way.

VIP Plus is about being seen. Earlier placement and a highlighted profile help when you are looking for something specific, such as a partner comfortable with a kitchen-table network, or when you live somewhere with a smaller polyamorous community and want your profile to reach the right reader sooner.

Getting value from your messages

A membership pays off when your messages lead somewhere. A few habits help. Open with something from the other person's profile rather than a generic greeting. Mention your own structure early, so nobody has to guess. Suggest a short call or a coffee once you have exchanged a handful of messages, and be honest if your availability is limited by existing commitments. People in polyamorous circles tend to value clarity over charm, and a clear, kind message usually earns a reply. If a conversation fizzles, let it go gracefully; the next profile may suit you better, and courtesy travels in close-knit communities.

Paying with discretion

Many polyamorous people are not out to everyone, so privacy around payment matters. Checkout is secure, and billing is discreet. Your membership details are visible only to you when you are signed in. If you share a device or an account with a partner, it is worth agreeing how you will handle notifications before you upgrade.

Couples and memberships

A couple sharing one profile shares one membership. If each partner prefers their own profile because they date independently, each profile needs its own membership to use paid features. Think carefully about which arrangement reflects how the two of you actually date: a shared profile is clearer for people looking to meet you together, while separate profiles tell readers that each of you has your own connections.

Our page on polyamory dating for couples covers how to present a couple profile fairly, and features explains each tool in more detail.

Before you upgrade

A little preparation helps any membership go further:

1. Finish your profile first. Clear photos and an honest description of your relationships bring better replies than any upgrade alone.
2. Read the Trust & Safety guide so you know how blocking, reporting and verification work.
3. Decide with any existing partners how much time you can give to new connections, so your messages make realistic offers.

Frequently asked questions

What is the difference between VIP and VIP Plus?

VIP gives unlimited messaging, full search and a complete visible profile. VIP Plus layers on earlier placement when people search, plus a highlighted profile.

How much is the shortest plan?

The shortest option is one week: $19.99 on VIP, or $22.99 on VIP Plus, in US dollars. Other currencies are listed above.

Can I pay in my local currency?

Yes. Checkout displays the currency that matches your location, including pounds, euros, and Canadian, Australian and New Zealand dollars.

Do couples need two memberships?

A shared couple profile needs one membership. If each partner keeps a separate profile, each profile needs its own membership for paid features.

Will my bank statement mention polyamory?

Billing is discreet. If privacy at home is a concern, check how your payment method displays merchant names before you upgrade.

Can I create a profile before choosing a plan?

Yes. You can create a profile, add photos and explore the site first, then pick a membership when you are ready to message.